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Health and wealth

SB turned me onto this concept of Direct Primary Care (Netflix for doctors), and given what I have for insurance, it made a lot of sense to sign up. It’s interesting realizing what my mindset has been toward healthcare before this. Now that I have the option to bother someone outside of an appointment, without worry about co-pay and other costs, now that it’s a lot easier to go to someone and ask for help, I’m more willing and wanting to take it.

I’m also a lot more unhealthy than I thought.

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Wedding Weekend

An assortment of thoughts

(Paraphrase) “I get it now, why it’s so important for me to meet your family. It’s important to me that you meet my friends; it’s important for you that I meet your family.”

I slept better away from home than I have in months. I’ve also had far more dry mouth in just a day being back. I’m not sure if it’s the dry air of Michigan, the heating unit in my room, or maybe something messed up inside my body, but I really, really need this to be over now.

LA weather and food are nice. In-n-out was good (still a Shake Shack guy). Had the most amazing bread pudding I’ve ever had. I can see why people want to move there. Not me, at least not yet, but people.

Also…joy.

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Unconditional

An interesting thought came up in a conversation this week. My need to perform, at least at home, was never an issue of unconditional love – I knew that my parents would love, accept, and care for me no matter what. It was, often, an issue of maintaining the peace – wanting to avoid conflict, especially when I felt like a disappointment.

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Minor musing

I hate when I have to give updates to people, especially over digital communication. I think there’s an expectation with digital communication that you can be more in-depth than you are in person (i.e., “How are you?” “Ok”). But how do I communicate everything that I’m going through without being overwhelming? What’s the right balance of transparent sharing and polite conciseness? It’s so much easier when things are genuinely just good. The struggles compounding on one another… Not very fun.

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Vacation musings

Mister Rogers And The Dark Abyss Of The Adult Soul

You could say I identified with Lloyd because he’s a journalist, but I think I mostly identified with him because he’s an adult human in a society where we’re told, from a young age, that the best way to fix something is to work harder. We swallow existential questions, and the despair or wonder that blooms from them, and work. Fear of losing a job, fear of losing a parent, fear of being a bad parent — instead of sitting with those feelings, again, we work. Because work means money, and money brings a modicum of stability, and relief, however temporary, from that same fear. Work doesn’t actually give us peace or solve our problems. But for a lot of us, it’s what we’re good at and what we know, which is far more comforting than staring at the abyss of what we don’t.

In a different sort of movie, the audience would be privy to Lloyd’s thoughts via a tear-jerking, sepia-toned flashback. Instead, the camera sits with Rogers and Lloyd for that full minute. In movie time, it feels like an eternity. Which is part of the point: We’re so unaccustomed to taking one full minute of time to be with ourselves, for ourselves only.

If you think of him as a saint,” she says, “his way of being is unattainable.” But it is nonetheless a practice: a decision, made every day, to care deeply about others, but also to refuse to insulate himself from the emotions that care requires.

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Day one. The need to detox is real. I had multiple dreams (for both nights one and two) of things I needed to take care of (in dream-land), and woke up to worries and concerns about things I need to take care of (in real life).

Slept a lot. Have some physical issues I need to deal with: I’ve been very, very dry-mouthed, and I’ve had to pee a lot especially while sleeping. But overall, the constant nagging that there’s church responsibilities to deal with is the biggest thing I’d like to get rid of.